have i been making mistakes too long part 7

[tkdmme]

yes I see the pattern. What can I do about it the next time it arises? at the time I thought that it would be best to keep my mouth shut and let the kids go to grandma's.

I also know that sending the text was not the right thing to do. I knew that as I was writing it. I knew that she wouldn't respond and I would be upset.

On another note, I have been having back trouble and was in need of a heating pad. My W went out last night for groceries and brought back a heating pad for me. I thanked her and started towards my room. I heard my S8 tell the W "that was really nice for you to get dad a heating pad even though you don't love him anymore".

I don't know how she can continue this destruction of our family when the kids are clearly hurting. He has said things like this on several occasions and she acts as if the kids are not effected. It breaks my heart to hear him say things like that.

He said to both of us the other night "I know you both are fighting and that you both are stressed but just remember we are all family.

He says things like this all of the time. I cant imagine what it is going to be like when we finally D and they have to face that reality.