I felt so good this weekend when I was with her, I actually made a comment, and then had to correct it because I forgot that we are separated. That felt weird. Plus, I heard W use the word us a couple times. And, since the weekend was nice, it makes me want to ask her to do something together. I would love to go on a date. It will be tough to not ask, but I can do it.
So what was the comment and why did you feel you had to correct it? The bigger question, is how did she react when you said it? Did her attitude change? I would say it was OK since she is using the word "us."
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And, since the weekend was nice, it makes me want to ask her to do something together. I would love to go on a date. It will be tough to not ask, but I can do it.
Ah, the tricky should I or shouldn't I? It would be a safe bet to say that the majority of the advice will come in the form of no, don't do it. But then again, I tend to not give the same. We have to remember that each situation is different and and what works with one may be detrimental to others. With that said, maybe there is a casual way you could do it without directly asking for a date? In reality, what would that hurt? At worst it could be a no, not ready, or the like...
So, isn't the process of DB'ing finding what works and going with it (at least more than a few posters told me that)? If so, then maybe you hit on the magic button. From what you have been posting, it seems that she has been more positive and maybe more open, too.
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I still haven't heard from her lawyer about a court date. W still hasn't told the boys anything. We are getting along great. She is telling me bye again. And we are doing nice things for each other, small things, but nice.
To me - and we all know how my advice doesn't usually jive with some on here - that seems extremely positive. I think that what you are doing is working, but then again, that is just me.
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And then, the other side of me wants to know the outcome, and skip the process. If we are working on us, then great, let's do it! If she still wants to have D, well I can respect it even if I don't agree. But then I can start by buying a truck and start building my own home.
Once again, one can't be left in limbo forever...
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
