have i been making mistakes too long part 7

[tkdmme]

W and I had a bit of an argument this past weekend.

My S10 and I had plans for Friday night to hang out. We had been looking forward to pizza and a movie. My D12 asked to go to grandmothers for the night witch I agreed to. The problem came in when my W asked S10 if he wanted to go to the grandmother's. he said no. after awhile the W asked the S10 are you sure you don't want to go to grandmothers house. He was hesitant and finally said he would go. I told the W and S10 that we had made plans. The W told me I was being selfish and trying to make S10 feel guilty about going to grandmother's house. In the end all of the children went to grandmother's house.

I think teaching my kids to follow through with plans they have made is a good thing. Am I being selfish for trying to make him follow through?

On a whole other note. My W went out with her friend that same night. I fell asleep rather early and woke up around 2am. She was still not home. I sent a text asking if she would be coming home and got no response. She showed up at 9am. I told her that it was disrespectful for her not to even let me know she wasn't coming home. She said it is none of my business if she comes home or not.

I would think it is common courtesy to let someone know so they are not worried. Am I wrong? I was up most of the night worried if she was ok. She is a heavy drinker and I have always been there to make sure she got home ok.

I know I shouldn't but I still worry for her safety and I thought it was plain rude not to at least call and say "hey I wont be home tonight.

I would love some input on these things.