Exactly - nothing will please him. But avoiding him makes him very mad. Yes, he needs to work on himself, but any suggestion or hint of that enrages him and starts a new string of blame.
On his terms because of course, nothing else matters. Remember, he is a pastor and counselor so he knows "all the tricks" and everything is a trick.

Just tonight he told me he's lawyered up now. I don't know if it's a test or legit.

Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?