Hi Kat, you have wise advice from the battlefields of your experience. Thank you.
It was interesting to see d21 and s14 goofing around together on Friday night. They were throwing a Nerf ball to each other, sometimes whipping it. They were talking, laughing, dancing, it was a really nice scene.
Then d21 brought up that om would be the step-dad to the 4 of them (our 4 kids). It was something I was not expecting, and it was a 'trigger' for me, it caused me a flash of pain. I wanted to shout "we aren't even divorced yet. Let's not get ahead of ourselves!" But I kept quiet. I understand the likelihood that we will divorce and they may even get married.
When I brought s14 back to W's place on Saturday, I told him again that he can call me any time if he ever feels uncomfortable at Mom's place. He rolled his eyes, but I am glad that I am repeating this for him.
I was hired by a new client today - a divorce case where the couple have been separated for 5 years. How unusual, a longer separation than what I am going thru. It could be a real fight between them.
