I am not a good listener , hence the problem with my wife. I need to get a hold of myself it's pathetic. I guess the only good thing ive done is get myself a L in order to see my girls. Other than that Im just going downhill. Now im just waiting on my books to arrive, should done it sooner.
Need advise on this, we both share car insurance and I pay for it. Should i cancel the policy ? and just pay mine?will i come out as an as#$ho#$% if i just cancel it and make her get her own? or do i just keep paying for both of us?
What you are looking for is validation/justification.
You are being vindictive revengeful, sorry to say this but sounds to me like you don't want your W back, like your purposely pushing her away by being this way.
What are you goals Angel? The ones for you. The ones you woke up this morning and said - today I'm going to work on XYZ about myself. Today I'm going to read XYZ book/website/Youtube video and reflect on. Today I'm going to go all day without doing XYZ?
Does the entire policy need to be paid upfront? Can you pay this month, eat the loss, know that your wife is insured for a month driving your kids around and then got on to more important matters?
In other words, why the heck are you posting about and focusing on car insurance when it's the least of your worries?
What is one thing, one action that you are taking today to be a better Angel?
Last edited by PigPen; 11/02/1509:55 PM.
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
Guys it was a serious question. I am not aasking because i know the answer. Ive always wanted to take care of her. So my instinct is to pay for it. But than i read threads that i should go dark etc , and do a 180. well the 180 would be not to pay for her since she has decided to leave. I guess im just confused from the whole 180, ive always been a nice guy and im assuming 180 is to be an as$%ho#% , i might be wrong.
My goal is not to chase her. Work on me , pray every day and talk to God for guidance. My goal is to be the best dad , im reading a book about being a dad and how little things count. I cant wait to see my daughters. I am really working on how to respond to her text or talks when ever the situation is confronted and not answer by defending myself.
Although i really want to txt her just to see how are my daughters , but im keeping myself from doing it . Because at this point any message or contact i do to her , she will say im harassing her. And i dont want that
Do you guys think it would be a bad idea apologizing for my emotional roller coaster and blaming her? I just want her to know i was out of line and i accept it. I can see why she wants out, because when i get like this I am a mess, and who would really want to deal with that.I accept her wanting a divorce. But i will not help her with it.But i just want to rest assure my daughters are doing fine. I know this might go against the rules. Sorry i guess today is one of those days , i just want to do this and that and xyz.
ive always been a nice guy and im assuming 180 is to be an as$%ho#% , i might be wrong.
Yes, 100% wrong. Please do not try anymore 180s regarding bring a nice guy until you read both books. Taking the techniques from the site (or what you think they are) without reading the book first is going to backfire on you.
And for the future, being an [censored] will never be the right choice, never.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
