Journaling A typical weekday, W leavings for work by giving kids hugs and saying good-bye to them but makes no gesture towards me these days. This morning, she called me few minutes after she left the house reminding me that I need to pay bills.
Her twisted view is that I want to take over the financials therefore I should be responsible for paying the bills. I am willing to take on this responsibility (to manage the finances) but this is not what I communicated.
Over the past few conversations W and I had, I did tell her 2-3 times that since she has OM I do not need to support her financially; that I am happy to split the cost of living. This is somewhat of a boundary, right? But how can I enforce this? We still married and where I live it is 50/50 in the eyes of the law. Over the weekend I learned the 2k in cash she withdrew without telling me was deposited back to account a few days after the withdraw. Not sure if she took the cash to get a reaction from me or something/someone else.. I did not and have not asked.
Bottomline, W spends outside her means (aka income) and historically during a M counseling session earlier this year she voiced (when she was upset.. because I was snooping) that she only needs me for the financial support so I know cutting her from this will get her upset but I don’t care and need to be responsible for me and kids (I do not know her these days).
