H has started an affair 2

[Sotto]

Hi Anna, good to hear from you. I'm glad to hear you told SIL and that she was supportive. Family pressure may or may not help in these situations - but it is good for you to know that SIL has supported you and voiced her concerns. It sounds as though your H was pretty unreceptive to the feedback - but I do think it is a little reality breaking into the fantasy.

You see, it is one thing to have forbidden, exciting contact with someone. That is all rather thrilling. However, that translating into a workable relationship - where you have Sunday lunch with the family and everyone gets along - well, that's quite another matter. It sounds as though things aren't too great with OW anyway. I think that is also pretty common as time goes on. However, there may well be some splitting up and reconciling going on with him and OW - that's happened many times in my sitch.

I hope you are managing to keep your own head above water, focus on you and the kids, and also carry on with some GAL? I start the divorce recovery workshop tomorrow, and I'm looking forward to meeting some other folk who have had similar experiences.

Take care & keep posting xx