TBH, this situation has been simmering on the back burner for so long. I did a timeline, and noticed some of his super selfish, stroppy teenager behaviour goes back 5 years.
There were two incidents with women early on in that five year time span (and preceding the two EAs in my signature) that I felt were about inappropriate boundaries on his part, but he seemed caught in the headlights a bit, and unable/unwilling to see things from my perspective, even though I explained how I felt very precisely and very calmly. I reckon part of him was enjoying the extra attention as well. The two EAs in my signature were ones he was complicit in (according to his own confession to me).
I've been processing bits of it as I've been going along these five years, but it was a bigger picture I was missing. That's all I've done for the past three weeks...research, read, reflect and join dots together. I've been doing it for 20 hours a day basically.
Now I feel like I want to try and turn the focus on myself. I think that's a more positive, constructive way to go forwards.
