even if it is to just let it go? I just want him to know that i forgive him. And that i no longer feel any anger towards him. I dont even know myself right now , i have changed so much in 2 months.
^^^^ What AZ said. Forgiveness is for you and you alone and "letting him know that you forgive him" is just a pitiful excuse for your (yet again) ploit of manipulation.
Give it a rest already with the "holier as thou" attitude. Soooo lame...
Let it go. You haven't forgiven him in the way you think. The only reason to messenge him would be basically to tell him you know what hes done and have hated him in the past(and still do). You want to punish him and it's understandable considering the state of your M right now but he's not to blame for all of this.
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Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
My W has been with OM for over a year now, secretly. I will not even question OM or confront him since I know if it wasn’t him it would have been someone else eventually. What I am doing right now is beign a stonger better father, physically, spiritually and mentally for me and my children. You are slowly losing your W don’t lose your children in the process as well. You can still get your W and family back, you have a chance, do the right things and pray often.
I really dont know how to get my wife back. Because i have been working on myself. I have let go of my past and i promised i would never make them feel neglected. She is done with the marriage. She doesnt care whether i changed or not. She is so determined to get the D. She just wants me to sign and be done with it and save ourselves L fees. I told her i didnt want a divorce but if thats what she wanted she would have to go file. She said that i wasnt being civilized about the situation since i just didnt want to come to an agreement and sign the divorce. Am i been uncivilized ? I just told her to take me to court? Did i do wrong? She says im not doing anything for the girls sake, because i just wont settle this like civilized ppl.
I just told her it was pretty unfair to just sign and be done with it, when i killed my but off for our wedding and our marriage. Seems fair that she needs to take me to court and settle this like civilized ppl , was i wrong ?
Besides God told me to take the back route , to make this a long process.
Angel - You can't "get" your wife back. She has to decide that she WANTS to come back. So, instead of plotting and scheming and watching, actively work on yourself.
You say you've changed, but it's only been like 6 weeks. This is a many months/years process. She didn't decide to leave in a day. She won't come back in a day either.
Make continuous, sustained changes in yourself. To me, you sound like the same person that arrived here in September.
