My W has been with OM for over a year now, secretly. I will not even question OM or confront him since I know if it wasn’t him it would have been someone else eventually. What I am doing right now is beign a stonger better father, physically, spiritually and mentally for me and my children. You are slowly losing your W don’t lose your children in the process as well. You can still get your W and family back, you have a chance, do the right things and pray often.