Yesterday got a call from someone supposedly from our phone company but I thought it might be a scam. Then I was worried they'd access our account & do something so I told H that I wanted to call & make sure everything was ok.
To do this, I needed the special code he put on back when things went downhill for us (when he read my messages & read what I wrote about him). He seemed reluctant... and he acted like "here we go again". He said- "What did I tell you several months ago about that? I'm not trying to be hateful or hurtful, but no I don't want you to be able to do anything else with this phone." He was meaning tracking him... or also implying about me putting spyware on his phone. But I told him I could only track him via our account & that he could also verify that I didn't. I said I could view the call log & was there something he didn't want me to see? He then gave in & gave me the info.
I got the scam thing straightened out & then had a look at the call/text logs. Bam. 8 texts between him & the OW on 9/30/15. Brought it up to him & he said it was work related. I asked if he still had the texts for me to see. Nope- he deleted them. He said b/c he didn't want me to look on his phone & get all worked up over seeing her & him texting. I pointed out that if he would have showed them to me & said- look, we texted & here are the texts, strictly work related as you can see... then I would not have to wonder & worry when I find out about it later.
SO..... what to do? I feel like he might be lying. But maybe not. Could be work related... but why delete if it was? I just hate this. Ugh. And 3 days before we head off on a trip to Colorado for just us.
Do I drop it? Do I ask other questions?
T: 14 M: 12 D: 9 S: 6 BD: 2/18/15 (H affair) Working on marriage: 3/12/15-6/11/15 Broken Trust (my error): 6/11/15 H ring off: 7/6/15; Comm w/ OW confirmed 7/13/15 H wants to work on fixing things: 7/21/15
