Triangulation (Differences between WAHs and WAWs 4

[JulieH]

I guess I am starting to think that I have no control of this situation so I can just kind of make the best of what I do have control over. Life is too short to sit around and be miserable and pine for someone who doesnt want to be with you. He has certainly not been husband of the year, so I would be waiting around for someone that's behaviors have been pretty self serving. I always thought that being the loyal "good girl" would be appreciated, but clearly it was not. I know I'm being stereotypical but Men chase after what they are physically attracted to and need to be challenged. I was too honest about my insecurities with my husband. Then the more I tried to make him happy and meet his needs, the more selfish and demanding he became. He had no respect for me. Let him see what's really out there. Don't want to sound conceited, but I actually have a lot going for me. He forgot about that stuff because I let him. I always downplayed my accomplishments and myself so that others would feel good. when I got comfortable with husband I focused on all the things wrong with me because my job was to make everyone feel good and make sure I come across as sweet and humble and like able. I am trying to change my thought processes now. Big thing for me will be asserting myself better instead of being " wishy washy" and then Vanillas brilliant term "screaming banshee"