She came over the next day. The first thing she said was maybe we shouldnt hang out anymore. I recognized I had messed up the day before and that my actions didn't work. By the end of the day I feel we were back on track and that me slipping up the day before had been replaced with positive memories and I don't think I went back to square one. The night before I was worried I might have pushed her away for good. But I developed a plan and implemented it the next day. We seem to be improving our relationship.
I think some attraction is developing toward me. Idk her feelings on the OM. I know she is embarrased by it and says a lot that she doesn't want to talk about her situation to anyone including her family. She says they ask her what she's going to do. She says that she don't want to think or talk about it right now. She left in July and still hasn't got her own place. Keeps saying she is but she has "been too busy". My worry is the OM possibly moving in with her. Don't want someone else around our S. I am being fully supportive of her move into her own place. The D had been filed but we agreed to pull months ago for financial reasons. Now she still says she not going to put it in and we have no plans to. Even though she still looks at us as we are "in a divorce".
I am noticing that some strategies work and others don't. When I am "cold and detached" on the weekends she thinks it is the old me coming back. She reacts way better to the nice bubbly outgoing supportive me. She had bought me gifts last Saturday and I refused them which she did not take well. Slowly but surely I feel confident I can earn her trust back and get to a point where she wants to work on our family. Reading DR and coming here gives me hope that with patience and hard work I can get her back. I am in no rush and will continue to work daily to fix myself and gal.
