If I didn't do what's expected she will get angry with me. And ask me to clean as she cleaned. Been there done that before in the MR.
I did some light cleaning, got the kids involved, one did all the vacuuming.
The MIL visit was what I expected, no talk of anything, acted like everything is the same. Not even a question for me. Its been a month you would think she would ask me how I was or something.
Halloween was good I took the kids out and my W stayed in with MIL to hand out candy. It was lots of fun. She took a picture of the kids and I decided to stay out of the picture. I think I made a mistake, there is no reason I shouldn't be in it. They need proof that I was there. She sent that picture to everyone, with no mention of me. Next time let her say for me to get out of the picture.
Next day W went out shopping with MIL, so I had the kids during the day, took them to the park. I told W about soccer and if she could be home at a certain time so I could go. She had some questions first was asking when I leave for it and when I come home, I was off by an hour on the come home time. I didn't message her at all telling her it was done, and coming home. Didn't think it mattered seeing as how I am DBing. Came home she said nothing to me, I didn't even see her.
The weekend was good, no arguing , no fighting, no one was angry, There was just one mention of how she always empties the dishwasher and I never do. I was going to get into it with her (defending myself) but I just dropped it and said nothing. Would of been a good validating time. "I can see that bothers you, I will try to empty it more"
Morning she was up and I found we are getting more comfortable together, she is sitting next to me on the couch when the kids are there, instead of the other chair.
Also we taking decorations down and I said there were some in the master bedroom window ( wasn't even sure what to call the room at first) . then she said something about them and called it our room.
It all seems positive right now so I will keep doing what works.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016
