Hi HH, what I should also have said is I would be doubly cautious if there is an OP somewhere on the scene...
I only met up with H once since BD (a month or so later). We had a lovely time - went for a walk, linked arms, chatted, laughed. At the end of our visit, we had a long hug and I told him to take care, pecked him on the lips - it was all really poignant. He texted me later and said thanks for the hug. Next time we spoke he told me he still felt swept away by me, wanted to hold my hand and be romantic with me. I told him that he and I were not and would not be in a R whilst he continued to see an OW.
He continued with the A and just weeks later was ordering sexy books on Amazon. He also visited OW abroad just a week after we had met up, so I presume that trip was already planned and he never said. My H's was a full PA though and may well be different. I guess all I'm saying is she may present one face to you, but what is going on in the background may well not be something you're prepared to live with....and why would you want to spend time with her if that's the case?
Take care my friend
Last edited by Sotto; 11/02/1510:44 AM.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
