Breathe, Mutatio! I see baby steps towards progress and the results of detachment. Your DBing May finally be paying off.
Originally Posted By: mutatio
Does any of this mean anything?
It's very possible. Change nothing for now until you have more positive actions to judge.
I want to apologize for stopping her from doing what she has wanted to do but it seems like pursuing, is it?
Ugh. I get the feeling you apologize too much. Here is a fantastic opportunity for validation. Ask her about it. "Wife, you made a comment that has me thinking. Do you feel...?"Listen. Validate. Do NOT start by apologizing.
Why is she talking and acting nicer?
Too early to tell. Maybe she had a good day. Maybe she won the lottery. Enjoy it for now, with no expectations.
Why do I not feel compelled to talk?
Detachment and learned behaviors. Change nothing, yet.
I rarely look at her now, I feel uncomfortable when I do, why?
Same answer...detachment and learned behaviors. You've also been pretty beaten down lately.
If she is warming, which I doubt, me acting cautious will not ruin anything, will it?
Nope. It may be what is working. I find it very interesting that you had basically dropped the rope emotionally. You were getting ready to move on. True to DB wisdom, she suddenly began to re-engage nearly as soon as you did. Don't change anything yet.
What does this mean for the future of Camp DB? I was picking paint colors!!!
