I have finally stepped up

[Fogg]

I don't know about Divorce busting , since divorce is around the corner , nothing i can do from that

I'm not even going to get into why you never thought to read the book associated with the site.
Read through it and you will see why your comment above is so wrong.

never mind i got it, i just ordered no more mr nice guy as well, they allowed me to read the first chapter for free online , and it pretty much summed up me. weird.

Yeah, weird........

Please focus on getting through the books for now.

There is amazing growth and understanding to be had going through this but only if you allow it.

[Ancaire]

Angel, read Divorce Recovery first. So much of what you're seeing on here will begin to make sense. Disregard the fact D is around the corner...there is still so much you can do.

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy after DR. We'll be able to help you out much more if you follow my advice. Promise.

[Azzork]

Just for clarity, the book is Divorce REMEDY.

Not Divorce Recovery.

[Ancaire]

How did I manage to do that? LOL

Thanks, Az!

[angel r]

i order divorce busting ??? so i guess order divorce remedy now?

[Fogg]

Divorce remedy is the updated and newer version that adds expands on some sections.

[angel r]

i am getting the urge to send a message to the other guy my wife keeps messaging and had a emotional affair with. I just want to let him know that in the past i hated him without knowing him, i hated the fact that he had the nerve to message and look for my wife knowing she was now married. What kind of person are you? I just want him to know that he was like a pimple in someones face. He would always appear the best times. Why didnt he mind his own business and just leave my family alone? didnt he see we had a marriage going on and 2 beautiful daughters ? why did he want to message her knowing damn well i wouldnt approve. I just want him to know that in past i hated him. But i have grown so much these 2 months that i forgive him. I want him to know that it was actually my fault this kept going. Because i never had selfrespect. I want him to know that i no longer hate him , but i wish him nothing but the best without knowing him.

[Ancaire]

Angel, please ignore the impulse. Send nothing to OM. He should be beneath your notice. Do not reward his behavior in any way. You sending him a message is a reward, of sorts.

[Azzork]

Angel -
There is no need to even think about OM.

He is a symptom of the failing marriage, not the reason for the marriage to fail. If it weren't THIS OM, it could just as likely have been a different one a year from now. Any energy you spend on him is completely wasted.

[Fogg]

^^

I would avoid the urge to initiate a non-urgent text to anyone until you get through those books.