Julie, Judy and Tx thanks so much for your words of support. It really does help to read them.
Whenever I get those kind of texts from my H it gets me second guessing myself. For the better part of year I HAVE been trying to promote and repair Hs relationship with kids, encouraging them to spend time with him and trying to arrange weekends for him to stay here while I went elsewhere so he could be with kids etc. it was only within last 2 months (when kids discovered OW) that I stopped trying to help connect them ( cause they no longer wanted to see him)
H has said that my feelings and mistrust of him have lead to the wedge between him and kids. So was it wrong of me to tell kids I think this OW has been in picture for years (I have seen many text and emails from her for years) Was it wrong of me to say to kids that their father is still my H and I still love him and am committed to him, our marriage, our family and that this is not okay that he is having an affair?
He has told the kids that he waited for almost a year before "seeing" another person. So because he thinks it is okay to walk out on the marriage and his family this isn't an affair????
