MLC Divorce and Cancer Continued

[bttrfly]

Hi Vge,
Just caught up on your sitch. Wow. Praying for you and the boys.

So, couple thoughts:
1. medicinal mushrooms. What do you know about them? Not reishi while undergoing chemo as it boosts the immune system too much, but others like chaga and turkey tails. Talk with an integrative MD who understands the pharmacology of your chemo drugs and how they will interact w/the constituents in the mushrooms. There are great databases particularly at Sloane Kettering online for the MDs to cross-reference. Host Defense/Fungi Perfecti ... check it out.

2. Do NOT engage with the nutbag known as your XH ... you know this already. There is the counselor, lawyers, etc., the truth is documented by your sons' counseling sessions. He is clearly addicted to the drama. God help the OW because this house of cards is gonna collapse on her, her kids and this new baby too. He is a piece of work. Remember, his family is only hearing his side. They are believing his lies. They are in a tough position. It hurts, I know. Focus on YOU. You know the truth, and so will everyone else in due time.

3. Honey, do the doctors say it's ok for you to work FT right now? What support are you getting in the way of looking for work? It's so hard when you've been a sahm for so long. If I've missed this pls. forgive me for repeating but, here are my thoughts on how to go about finding some work:

a. re: your resume - you probably have a lot of skills that you aren't thinking about. Here are some thoughts about that: home schooling = teaching, get on the local substitute teachers list for school systems in your area. these are per diem but that might work for you in the interim to get you some ready $.

b. what have you done in the way of volunteer work, or coordinating ? you homeschooled 4 boys for a long time. write down all the things you had to do to do that effectively - many of these things are transferrable as job skills.

c. next, talk to everyone you know that you are looking for a job. jobs are found through people you know far sooner than through ads/head hunters.

d. also, temp work with temp agencies: you can ask for temp assignments which are specifically temp to term. Gives you and potential employer a chance to try each other out without commitment, and you an oppty to earn $ in the meantime.

Hope this helps. So aghast at what you've had to deal with in the past year, but God is good - you are handling this with far more grace than even you probably know right now.

4. Whatever happened with NG? I'm so curious about him.

Sending you love, light and prayers xoxoxo Bttrfly