I don't think you're being mean because mean would be letting H starve to death. He's not at that stage yet, but he has to learn how not to reach that stage?
You are right, I am being more mean by helping him. Then complaining because he is not acting like a man.
Me: 42 H: 45 M: 18 yrs T: 20 yrs D: 17 D: 15 S: 12 I kicked him out 8/21/15 I will DB until March 21st 2017, that is it!