Yesterday I signed the final papers for the sale of my house. The Sold sign is going up today. I also signed a lease for an apartment. It is a nice cozy place in a neighbourhood that I lived in 20 years ago. My dog and kitties will love it and I'm looking forward to simplifying my life. No more worrying about taking care of a huge house, snow shovelling, grass cutting, etc.
I move in 25 days! I'm excited about the future, but still sad that I have had to let go of the dream of a family home. I will miss some of my kitties that are moving with my son, but glad to have less responsibility. Speaking of, I must get up and get out. Time to move some more things into my sons new house.
Life will never be the same, but it will be even better.
Moving on....reluctantly! Standing still is not an option!
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I haven't been the greatest with keeping up GAL activities, but I have a feeling that will change soon. Finances and my health have kept me home bound for the last 6 months. Although I'm still managing the symptoms of my chronic illness, for the most part I feel pretty good. I have lost quite a bit of weight since April. I don't exercise much, again the finances wreaked havoc on the Y membership. My new place has a recreational centre with an exercise area, gym, hot tub and outdoor pool in the summer. I will be making full use of that to the best of my physical capabilities. There is a community rec centre a short drive up the street with various programs that I will check out. It has an awesome pool area with slides. My daughter will love it! I know that not far down the road is a Hot Yoga studio. I would like to check that out. I think that would be something right up my alley. Beneficial for my body, mind and soul and yet very doable with my chronic illness. So many possibilities.
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1. Get settled into my new place, unpack. Buy new bed and mattress, dresser, dining room table and chairs, small patio set, coffee table, couch, dishes, a new wok and make it truly mine. 2. Repair my car, sell it and buy a newer one with less kilometres and warranty. 3. Sign up at our local college for adult learning classes. 4. Sign up for online courses in the field I want to study (animal care) 5. Apply for the Animal Care attendant college program by Feb, 1st ( again I can do most of these courses online) 6. Pay off all my outstanding debts (every single one of them), plus pay car and house content insurance for the whole year. 7. Get membership for the yoga studio 8. Consistently go swimming and for walks with the doggie. 9. Find other interests to explore (painting or re-learning clarinet) I was a prolific player in my youth and played in marching, concert and jazz bands)
Phew....I think that's enough for right now. I think once this gets rolling I won't have time to think about what my H is up to. Lol
On a really lighter note. A couple of months ago I was searching for art lessons in my area and came across a local artist that teaches adult art lessons. We corresponded via email for a while and I told her I would be in touch after I sold my house. I got an email from her last night. She was looking for models for a couple of her art classes and also for a photoshoot in a couple of weeks. Minimal compensation, but I get copies of the photos and the art work. Now the kicker, for the art classes I will be posing nude. A bit out of my comfort zone since I have always struggled with body image and weight issues. F*** it! I am who I am! In all my glory, stretch marks, rolls, tattooed and all. I am real!!
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Di-mond! Wow! I am impressed with all your plans. What awesome ideas...I may use your goals to get my goal let going. I am not, however, going to jump in with your artistic endeavors...lol
What an incredibly brave and wonderful woman you are.
Today is moving day for my son. Time for him to start a new chapter in his life. I get keys to my new place on Tuesday, then I will start a new chapter or maybe a whole new book for my life.
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As much as I still love my H and miss him....I'm doing alright. I'm getting excited about moving along in life.
I'm looking forward to buying a new bed!!!! A platform bed so my sweet old doggie can jump up easier.
I can't wait to buy a couple of kick-a** cat trees, the ones with multiple levels, tunnels and hammocks for my kitties.
I'm looking forward to trying Hot Yoga and going swimming at the rec centre.
I am so excited about signing up for my first 2 college courses in January. Back story here is....when I was 22 I applied for college. I paid for my first semester tuition and arranged for daycare for my two kids. They were 2 and 3 at that time. The year before my grandmother had a stroke and was hospitalized. Mere weeks before I was to start college, the doctors finally gave us permission to take her home. My mom worked full time and so did my dad. My brothers were off to University. I was asked if I would take care of her. She was paralyzed, no speech, swallowing problems. Basically like having another baby. I got a refund on my tuition and took care of my grandmother. Never will I regret doing that. She lived for 2 more years. The visiting nurses taught me how to do most of my grandmothers nursing care. It was the toughest and most rewarding job (besides raising my kids) I have ever done. Now here I am over 20 years later. I get to realize one of my dreams. I know my grandmother would be proud of me.
So many new and exciting possibilities ahead of me. It is really too bad my H is not here to share them with. I've made some decisions about how to proceed with him as well. I really wanted some clear direction from him if he wanted to work on our marriage or not, before the 1 year separation is up April 1st 2016, but now I really don't see the need to rush. I've committed to living separately for at least another year by signing a 1 year lease agreement. I'm doing what is in my best interest, not what brings me closer to him. I have asked him about doing a Retrouvaille weekend in the town he lives in next year in March and I think he would be willing. I think it would be good for both of us to learn how to communicate better, regardless if we get back together or not.
Alright....I think this post is long enough now.
Happy Halloween!
My sons girlfriends little guy went trick or treating from my house tonight, dressed as Superman. When he came back he shared some of his candy with me.
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I know my grandmother would be proud of me.