Angel, my H has broken his vows...lots of times. I'm willing to forgive, but he needs to feel some remorse - and he does not. He's determined to find "happiness". He has yet to realize the grass is greener where you water it.
He's rushing towards D, and there is nothing I can do. I HATE the idea...but the fear of it was crippling me. Once I let go of that fear, the pressure was off. I don't advocate D. It's just in some situations NOT fighting it seems to relieve pressure, and DBing can commence.