So I have an offer from my current job to move to a different city and be terminal manager there. Free rent and bump in pay. How i wish this would of happen when me and here were still together. Now i dont know if I should take the offer or just say no. Distance can really damage my relationship with my daughters. This [censored]. This could of been a great way to save up and by the house me and her always wanted. WHY!!!!!!
Nice guys finish last not because that's what life does to them, but that's what they do to themselves. You are responsible for you, no one else. So you acknowledge your a nice guy, read the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" and fix it. You had so many posts in your first thread saying to read the book, you said your a nice guy, you even said ...
Originally Posted By: angel r
thank you all for the advise, it means a lot. After reading every single post ...
so, have you read the book(NMMNG)? Did you read the book for this website?
You read the advice on here but don't follow most of it. So many posts have wanted you to work on you and the only thing you ever mention is how you are standing up for yourself and getting closer to the lord. Fine, good things to do. Now, what about everything else? You have advice of what to do to fix you but you ignore posts of things you don't want to hear.
All you really want right now is the quickest way to get your W back and that is the surefire way to lose her forever.
"nice guys" usually think there being nice but can be complete assholes when they don't get their way. I would know, I was one. They don't even see when their being the [censored] all the time because they justify it in their own heads without caring how it comes across.
I have the perfect 180 for you that could save your M. Take the advice your getting on the forum and actually use it to work on you. You seem to ignore what people are telling you and one day you will regret you had the chance to turn things around now but chose to stay stuck in your old mind.
Last edited by Fogg; 10/31/1507:13 PM.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
Fogg and you are right, I came to realize that I was not a victim of physical abuse, physiological abuse , verbal abuse and emotional affair. Even though she hit me and i have pictures of my bruises it's my fault i let it happen because i never stopped it or never set my boundary. She would always degrade me call me names i was worthless ,selfish etc , but that was my fault because i always accepted it and never told her to stop I nver set my boundary. Emotional affair i always forgave her and i would tell her dont do it again ok? That was my fault, why didnt i have self respect ? I am working on myself. The men retreat really did help me. The whole point and message of that retreat was to man up, speak up, stand up. Which gave me the courage to just file with my L for my rights as a father and stop the future physiological abuse she is inflicting on my daughters by her extreme ways of discipline. I will no longer take anything from her. I am working on myself. I have managed to keep the house pretty clean , when maybe in my old ways it would have been a mess. I am still going with my counselor in order to fix my past neglect feeling. I cant wait to see my daughters and just love them like they should , i am so sorry that i was subconsciously neglecting them. Right now I love my wife and miss her so much , but i wouldnt take her back that easy anymore. She would really have to work on herself first.
No I have not read the book. But I sure need to. As a matter of fact, i am going to order No more mr nice guy , right now. I dont know about Divorce busting , since divorce is around the corner , nothing i can do from that
never mind i got it, i just ordered no more mr nice guy as well, they allowed me to read the first chapter for free online , and it pretty much summed up me. weird.
