Fogg and you are right, I came to realize that I was not a victim of physical abuse, physiological abuse , verbal abuse and emotional affair. Even though she hit me and i have pictures of my bruises it's my fault i let it happen because i never stopped it or never set my boundary. She would always degrade me call me names i was worthless ,selfish etc , but that was my fault because i always accepted it and never told her to stop I nver set my boundary. Emotional affair i always forgave her and i would tell her dont do it again ok? That was my fault, why didnt i have self respect ? I am working on myself. The men retreat really did help me. The whole point and message of that retreat was to man up, speak up, stand up. Which gave me the courage to just file with my L for my rights as a father and stop the future physiological abuse she is inflicting on my daughters by her extreme ways of discipline. I will no longer take anything from her. I am working on myself. I have managed to keep the house pretty clean , when maybe in my old ways it would have been a mess. I am still going with my counselor in order to fix my past neglect feeling. I cant wait to see my daughters and just love them like they should , i am so sorry that i was subconsciously neglecting them. Right now I love my wife and miss her so much , but i wouldnt take her back that easy anymore. She would really have to work on herself first.
