You're welcome. That fear was a big one for me. Releasing the fear of D has helped me in many different ways. I no longer have a "deadline" to meet as far as DB is concerned. My H is nowhere near the place he needs to be for a successful R. I have all the time I need. H is beginning to understand I'm not fighting him at all anymore. It's confusing him. My PMA is improving dramatically without the pressure.
I'm sure I'll cry like a baby when it's final. Then I'll dry my tears and go back to focusing on me, and DBing when I can. H needs to crash and burn before he can see the need for change. I won't have time to worry much about him if I'm focusing on me. I meant my vows...a piece of paper doesn't change that.
