6 months in the storm

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I am anti-D. I would never be one to tell you to leave her behind and move on. However, let me ask you this: Will a change in legal status change what is in your heart? It won't for me. I think a big change in thinking for you is going to be losing the fear of that legal change. That's all it is. A piece of paper saying D, and spelling out division of assets.

D- please do some tough thinking. So many of us are petrified with fear at the thought of the D being final, that we let ourselves be taken advantage of in the worst ways. How "real" that D is depends on you and your heart. Some WAS only begin to reconsider after they get the D they thought they wanted. They realize their fantasy isn't nearly as wonderful as they thought it would be. Full of remorse, they come back.

D - I don't want to hijack your post so I will copy this on my thread too but I just wanted to say, Ancaire - thank you for the 2x4 today. This is actually what I needed to hear today. I think I want him to reconsider his actions so badly that I am afraid I will be taken advantage of again just to what?, stay married? I need his return to our marriage to be genuine and full of remorse and I know that won't happen overnight. I will keep doing what I am doing for myself and not for him.