Hi Mleigh- yes, you have to put your son first. In a few years your son will not want either of you anywhere near him on Halloween! Enjoy it while it lasts.

I am wondering if awareness by in-laws was spurred on by the return of the key to the lake house?!? Hate to mind read, but maybe . . .

I have not had the courage to re-read my thread. Sometimes out of the clear blue, I still can't believe this is my life. I had an eye appt. the other day and the form asked if I was married, single or divorced. I circled "married" but felt there should be a sub-category: "really" married or "fake" married?

I think this time of year is very dangerous. The holidays bring out a lot of emotions. We all have an expectation of what holidays should be. I am right there with you...


Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced