Triangulation (Differences between WAHs and WAWs 4

[JulieH]

That sad remorseful phase did not last long, because I started to think to myself, that he never tried to fix marriage (he says he did) the only reason for him to not try to fix a marriage is an affair. I was awake all night thinking of this. Knowing if there was might help legally and would enable me to know his true character. A friend and family members say his neglect of the kids reveals his extreme selfishness. A few of them feel like he would never admit it even to himself, but he was just was incapable of handling the kids (especially one with behavior problems) and a family. His need for independence is more important then the family he committed to forming. I was never one of those women who pushed him to marry me. I'm not religious and i was actually OK not being married to avoid the expensive wedding. He was the one that wanted marriage. He was also the one that wanted me to move in with him before we got married. I never pushed for that either, at the time I was content saving money living with my family. So he says we were always incompatable, but these were his decisions. It also reminds me that I wasn't that bulldozer unless it involved travel and until he neglected helping with the kids after they were born. These are issues most people realize and get through.