Five Years Ago Today

[tadpole1025]

Hi there. Just checking in to respond.....

You are a GOOD MAN. You know that.. God know that and so does everyone on here. It is changing us into even better people. WHY? Because we want to. We could have easely chosen destructive paths but we didn' t. We could have become alcoholics, drug attict, ( feel this space with self medication crap ) and feel sorry for ourselves and using this challenge as our justification. But we did not.. We are using this to grow and learn..

Thank you. I know I'm a better person because of this. I also know than I am a better person than XW will ever be. She even used to TELL me that I was a much better person than her. I never thought so, but I do now. The thing that really makes me happy though is the fact that someday my boys can look back and say that I was always there for them. It wasn't always easy and it sure as Hell wasn't fun, but I was THERE. Also, even though my boys were pretty much grown at the time (24,20,18,16) she has missed so much. It's also good to know that THEY KNOW they can come to me if needed. XW has simply not been a part of their lives.

sometimes it's the strongest that take the longest.

I love this AJ. Thank you.

You sound good

I think mLC really seems to change us

Your XW can see it..she sees something in you that she does not have in herself

she is probably baffled,,she left to find it and you got it

Thanks. I wouldn't say that I was good, but I'm definitely better. As for XW seeing my changes, I'm not so sure. She avoids me and everything about me like the plague.

Glad to hear you're doing better. I hope you're still getting C.

Haven't done any lately MrBond. I've been working a lot. I've been keeping busy with overtime and working 50-60 hours a week.

UPDATE:

I think I read once before that people in MLC tend to see things how they were. I believe this. XW has been sending our sons texts lately calling them her "munchkins" and "little babies." They are grown men. My youngest will be 21 in December. She sent them all a text the other night telling them all how much she misses them. Again, her deal. She simply fell off the planet and hasn't been in their lives for 5 years.

As for me....

I've been working a lot and really like my job. I'm learning an awful lot and will most likely be promoted again after the first of the year. People here seem to like me. A guy at work told me the other day that everybody just seems to "gravitate" towards me. Haha. I'm electric!!!

My birthday was last Sunday. My lady "friend" brought me a coffee cup with The Beatles on it. We are both Beatles fans. She filled the cup with chocolates that she knew I liked and gave me a very nice card with a note inside thanking me for making work so much fun and for the great talks. Now....if she'd just let me take her to lunch...

I'm still not getting out. My weekend is coming up and I plan to go to the Phoenix Zoo. I haven't been there in years. I just need to MAKE myself go.

Anyways, that's all for now. It's been a long, winding, bumpy road but I'm slowly getting to the finish line.

Thanks for stopping by.

Tad