hi Cali, I've been reading your posts and have been in awe of your patience and self control during this entire situation. Ive often wondered if you could ship me a stfu smoothie or several
i'm sorry this reconciliation is so hard. what struck me most is that your wife is doing something my h does --- has an entire conversation with you in her head about how she thinks you will respond or feel and then makes the decision for you not to let herself become vulnerable.
i don't know how to advise you since i seem to do many things incorrectly - my db coach said i was doing a great job of practicing all the things to get divorced. I think ultimately you get to decide what happens next, not your wife. Isn't that what they say happens in reconciliation? You've grown so much and made so many changes. Just know there are many people here who support you in this crazy mlc journey. xo, -butterfly
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
