Cali, I agree w/mleigh...you are way ahead of your wife and you know what? You moved back in together too soon and that is why you are seeing so much of the MLC signs. She's not fully baked yet. When a MLCer returns too soon, it takes a lot of patience for the spouse to have to deal w/the MLC behaviors. It takes a very long time for them to settle down, especially if they aren't baked enough to handle reconciling.
Dig deeper for patience, give her space and live your life to the fullest. NO EXPECTATIONS! Also, this is going to be difficult, but you are watching the pot boil and it will never boil as long as you are watching it. Try to look at her as a roommate right now. She's got to have the time and space to finish up her crisis or you will become so frustrated that you will call it quits.
She's definitely trying to work on herself and it's also time do some more soul searching. Dig deeper for patience. Find things to keep you busy and productive and leave her in God's hands so that he can help her thru the rest of her journey. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
