Yeah I thought of it that way yesterday. The thought entered my mind when she asked what we all were doing for Halloween.... Like you this time last year I was thinking seperate but she convinced me it was for S, at the time I was lead to believe OM was gone and found out otherwise and I had enough. Fast forward a year.... A is done ... No sign of OM... And yeah she is still baking but no where near what it was like last year so I have to check myself and realize this is far better than where the sitch was, and just DBing as I should till she works her stuff out.... Accepting I can not see this and it very well may take some time... Would I rather give up after all I've been through and done... No.
We joked about it a bit... I can say she does seem somewhat tolerant of my mini blow ups here and there, I also realized I can not press her.... Nor do I want her to fill my needs due to guilt or a fear of losing me/the family
So back in the crockpot she goes... And I continue to work on myself while still realizing God has a bit more to do with us both
