There is no doubt in my mind that WH was going to bail you out to regain control. It is classic behaviour, this is something when you are calm in a couple of months we can analyse until there is no more to get out of it. I did a course called the Freedom course, freedom from abuse, originally designed for the abuser. I may consider becoming a support worker at the Sanctuary.
Simply the reason that abusers visit the victim is control , it reabuses and eliminates fear in the abuser. A little like thieves revisit the treasure burial site to ensure the jewels are not discovered, or inset themselves into a police investigation.
It's absolutely imperitive you hold your own counsel, and keep STFU. In addition keep recording, it establishes a pattern of behaviour, upload the recordings to safe cloud space or email the MP3 to your L. You can also share these with a specialist abuse counsellor or a VSO.
I like the use of the grey rock technique towards WH, you will find this on my sitch, if I can I will link. I even went to the extent of disguising my weight loss with Dish towels wrapped around my middle. I put honey and caster oil in my hair and wore beige. Please heed me, keep your new strength to you. Realise that this truly is your road to freedom. The arrogant and proud always underestimate their opponent. In addition have you considered the truck may have been moved to a position that you might drive into it?
Truthfully it is your strength stay calm, stay safe and if you can detach. I do not recommend Ostentatious flamboyant GAL, coffee with a friend, weekend away with a relative. A fest of funny films to make you smile. DB is for you, irrespective of your R or WH. You DB for you, although some of the DB needs to be kept very low key.
In due course if you get WH to reveal his true colours in front of a court, this will only happen if you play this long con. There will be more revelations by WH, lies are like rats for every one you see there are 50 more.
In addition the more you let him have his steam, the more used to steaming he becomes and you or your L will be able to trigger WH at will. If you can get a report on the abuse from the police with your recordings, an OOP. This WH has little concern for you at this time, if you like to consider he is possessed and the demon inside is the one you are dealing with.
Now is the time to NC unless WH rants at you. Then record it.
Anc, this is what I did to be free. Breathe.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 10/30/1506:32 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
