[quote]Thank you for responding. How far away will his next duty station be? My W's will be roughly 2 1/2 hours away. Which brings me to this - for a W and mom who supposedly loves her children so much, why is she so resistant to all of us moving with her? I mean, wouldn't a loving mom want her children near hear all the time instead of being a weekend mom? Her excuses for us staying here: 1) great school system and our son is having some trouble but they are helping him; 2) near my family - she has always been big on family support even though they only see my family every two or three weeks (even though we are only 5 mins apart); 3) financial - we currently have two houses (one is rented) and couldn't afford it. I call BS on this one. The area where her next duty station is like job heaven for my field, where I would make much more than am now. I even said I could pay the house here and we could either rent it out or come back every couple of weeks. No go.
My H is going to be moving to the opposite coast for his next duty station, so when he leaves here, he will be limited to seeing the kids only on opposite major holidays and a couple weeks during the summer.
I truly can't understand how ANY mother could be accepting of leaving her children. On the other hand, being in the military, H has spent half of our children's lives deployed or otherwise apart from our family, so separation isn't something unfamiliar to us. Maybe something similar is going on with your W?
As for quality time, when we first separated, my H would still come around and we'd do things with the kids, go out to dinner, etc., and he would say sometimes that it made him feel like we were a family again. Then he stopped doing anything at all with us for a long time. I tried and tried to get him involved with the family again in hopes it would help him reattach, but he wouldn't have anything to do with it. Lately he has started doing stuff again, but since we are actually in the D process, I don't put much meaning in it. Last night he was here and carved pumpkins with us. Everything was pleasant, but when D13 stepped out of the room, he asked me out of the blue if I were enjoying my single life, and kept asking me if I were dating anyone. I blew off the question and then D13 walked back into the room and everything was dropped. Very weird and uncomfortable though. I wanted to say..."you're D-ing me, why do you care who/what I'm doing?" lol
