Hi Mona, I actually think that text was okay! It was an important anniversary for him, nice to let him know you were thinking of him and he responded positively.

Main thing is to recognise the urge to keep a link there and to realise that constant contact with a WAS doesn't really give them space to start processing things. Your thanks on behalf of your D wasn't needed IMHO and it may be things like that, which you just let go of..

For me, weeks pass now without H and me being in touch at all, and I mostly feel a sense of peace about not being in touch with him. Yes, I would love the bond we once have, but not in the present circumstances with ongoing OW involvement...

You'll get there...you're doing really well smile

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus