See... this is what I mean.. It is confusing when those things are called 'goals'. They should be called something different. In the book, those things are clearly being defined as goals:
In reference to goals, "do they describe the actual behavior you are *hoping* to see when your marriage improves..."
But getting back on track, understanding that I have my measurable goals working on myself, are the 'goals' I listed in regards to step 2 formed correctly? With as little contact as I have with my wife, this is very important. The whole point of these signs or 'goals' is so that you don't miss the little trees buried in the forest. So for me, I do not have any contact really at the moment, that is the forest, very, very easy to get discouraged. I need to see the little signs of improvement that might be buried. That is what I get out of reading step 2.
