Dday
Yes, it will be rough but keep on the path to improving yourself without punishing her and who knows what will happen. Not implying skipping the Halloween event is punishing, but it can be depending on your motivations and reasoning to her. Just be careful how you respond if she asks about anything.

"You broke my heart and tore apart my family so I'm not spending time with you on holidays" is completely different than " sister invited me to dinner that night but have fun with the kids"

As for the need to talk to her. I can tell you I had the dame urges many many times and I was running out of time to say something since thr D seemed to be progressing. . Don't stress or push it too much now, those opperunities to talk about certain things will come up and it's better if it's later when your much stronger and are able to talk without being needy or reacting to her.

Last edited by Fogg; 10/30/15 11:03 AM.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be