Hi Mleigh - I think that's fair enough with the Hallowe'en response. You are just reinforcing that message that you'll be making your own plans for these occasions. Glad you are feeling resolved about that. And good for you with the new carpet! I found that I have a special affection for those things I worked hard to make, mend, save for....since our separation last year.

Have a great day xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus