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[Mona52]

OMG Judy, I just caught up on your thread and was floored! What a group of friends your H has, huh?
I want to tell you the first thought that popped into my head when I read what the friend said to you, but I am fairly sure the people on the board here would maybe flog me if I gave my kind of advice, so I resisted

Thanks mutatio, I actually posted that because Sotto gave me pause to think today. I am not a normal thinker. I analyze the heck out of a question from every single angle before I decide on something.

Sotto suggested that me thanking H was just my way of staying connected. I replied quickly "No its not..." and then I gave these reasons why its not. Then I spent no less than 8 hours today pouring over old threads and detachment and TLR and going dark. I searched out old threads that I remembered from back in 2004 for guidance.

That post I threw there because I think Sotto is correct. And I need to drop the silly rope. I dont need to pretend to drop the rope, or act as if I am dropping the rope.

So I knew my H was coming today to drive kids to my sis's. I put on no makeup and left my hair as-is. No tidying up, we are moving tomorrow, no need to put stuff away.

I went up to my room and enjoyed some me time. Turns out my H bailed on the kids. No big deal, they called my mom and found a way. I did not have to do a thing.

H did drive them home, but I was actually napping! (I was worn out after studying TLR all day).

I did not return his text and by now he should have figured out I am not going to. Our lives are separate now. Does not matter what, where, when or why. It just is. I am not going to change that. He has a ton of growing up to do. I cant help him, I have to send him away to learn how to be a man. Now it is all about me and my kids.

I bought the 5 love languages book for teenagers and I will start becoming supermom tomorrow. After trick or treating of course.