D15 has been having nightmares lately; she's been having problems with OW. OW who used to suck up to her and tell her how great she was has been uber critical of her recently. She gave me examples: D15's learning to drive and almost got into an accident and was complaining about driving and OW was apparently being critical of her complaining and kept going on and on about how D15 shouldn't complain.
D15 is also autism spectrum. She in high school now, and is attending her church youth group weekly and joined Spanish and math club, and she is going to try out for the mock trial club. She has a few good friends she hangs out with. She was at a park with X and OW and apparently ran into a girl from school she'd had a class with, and couldn't remember her name and asked her what her name was again and that really upset OW. OW went on and on criticizing D15 about her social skills. I think D15 is amazing and has improved her social skills every year!!! My d said she was almost in tears pretty much the whole day but wouldn't let OW have the satisfaction of seeing them. The ironic part is my daughter is sweet and kind, honor roll student, does lots of volunteer work, and OW's daughter is an alcoholic drug addict who has recently been in rehab. So....meanwhile per my D, X was there and said nothing to defend my daughter in these situations...
The thing that makes it worse is that D15 feels she can't say anything to OW or X. For example, if she tells X how she feels about OW he will no longer love her or whatever and will choose OW over her. She has always been astute.
I told her she at least needs to say something innocuous like "Everyone complains sometimes" so that she doesn't feel like she is completely voiceless or she'll continue to have the nightmares.
It's killing me to stay out of this one, but since she's turning 16 next month I'm thinking she's old enough to deal with this on her own??? Divorce [censored] sometimes....
