I am making my way through DR cover to cover this time at a fairly good clip. I am through step 2 but have a question about the goals mentioned in this step. It says goals should 'be positively stated and action oriented". OK.. fine (though I think there is something else missing there). Then there is an example which is almost my exact situation... the couple has been physically separated for 3 months with very little contact. The question is basically what will the wife start doing to show that their marriage is salvageable. The husband says one sign would be:
"Wife would call the husband once in a while to see how he is feeling"
Another would be:
The wife discussing a future with her husband included (paraphrasing)
Am I interpreting this wrong? Is it the engineer in me? How is this a goal when it's not in your control? This is a hope and what happens if those things do not happen? Is that your sign to move on? Maybe it will be clearer as I read through the other steps? Calling those things goals is throwing me off.
