Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

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Hi Sandi, thank you. That definitely clarifies a few things and gives examples. I get it. One specific example is the "I dont have to report to you attitude". Since we have kids, she will communicate, "I have an appointment". But if the kids have a practice or something and she doesn't have to report in, she may stay gone for that time, say 2 or 3 hours. I don't even think she us up to anything other than proving the point she doesn't have to report to anyone, but what is the appropriate response to that? Do I ignore it and show her I am giving her space and not checking up on her? Or do I say, if you are out having affar time, here are the divorce papers?