SO I just wanted to say, for anyone new to my sit or Roiste's who is reading, that I do not believe this is THE BEST SOLUTION for any situation.
I don't think that this will work if a woman is done, when she is ready to leave...the rebuilding of a friendship will only work AFTER that dust has settled and you have made improvements that are truly visible...not during this initial strife. I think that it will work against your efforts to let things move in the direction they need to.
I don't want to give false hope for forging friendship to be the end all, to someone who has not been able to DETACH, this is not an avenue to DETACHMENT. It will only serve to keep you thoroughly enmeshed and entwined in an unhealthy relationship with your wife.
Learning about yourself, learning how to detach, learning how to love and respect our self first and foremost, learning how to be a great parent, That is where we need to start DB. Learning how to properly DB, GAL, Setting Goals, 180's, giving wife space...is how we need to start our journeys towards healing. There are no short-cuts. This takes time.
sorry for that, just thought I should type a caveat so there is no confusion on my intent here.
