Well, H is 50 today. My S15 observed that "it's the perfect age for a midlife crisis." LOL. I don't know where he picked up that term but it didn't come from me; I've never said a peep.
I did a 180 for me. I've always been really uncomfortable with gifts; it's not my love language, and I'm usually uncomfortable spending a lot of money - I generally try to put a lot of thought into something very inexpensive and then worry that it might seem cheap to the recipient. But with a big family to shop for especially at Christmas, my gifts are small. Long story short, I thought 50 deserved some recognition so I spent a day researching motorcycle gear and picked out some top rated gloves for -yikes- $250. By the time I learned how important it is not to scrimp on motorcycle safety gear, with gory descriptions, I decided to take the leap and get something good that he'll like.
Bonus is that I got the idea from S15 who said dad's been mentioning wanting some with a certain feature.
I texted him a photo of them with a happy birthday message and he said thanks. He'll get them when he's back from out of town. I also told both kids "it would be nice of you to text dad happy birthday" and will leave it to them if they want to do that. I told them the gloves were from all of us.
Anyway, this has nothing to do with my marriage or divorce, just gave me a good feeling to try to be really thoughtful.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
