Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

[Uphill]

Flight, I feel this post ^^^^. There are so many of us that early on when it was easily salvageable, we do the wrong things. Dig our holes deeper. We are in a mindset that if we correct any complaint we have heard over X amount of years... Magically everything will be great.

In my situation, I thought everything was going great. We had our small arguments over seemingly petty things. Then came "I'm not happy". She vented about all these once again seemingly petty things again so I went on a mission to make sure my socks went into the laundry and were not inside out. I made a point to not take on overtime at work, be more affectionate. All that stuff. Problem is, by the time those words come out of their mouths, they feel like it is over and we drive them away faster because in thier mind "see how easy that was, why didn't you do it when I asked the first time". Makes it look like we didn't care before? Not true, but it looks that way.

We spend so much time looking at these things that we don't sit back and look at the big picture. These issues are deeper but the way it is said to us puts our focus at the wrong places.

WAW, WW, MLC, all the same. Different but the same. They are "done". We need to work on us (easier said than done). They don't care at this point if we can juggle 8 balls that are on fire, one handed, while standing on the other hand and twirling a hula hoop on our leg. They won't look our way at this point.

Be the best dad ever. Be the best flight possible. Live for you.(there again easier said than done) and that my friend, will make you a person that only a fool would leave. One day that will shine bright, and maybe in the end we are lucky enough to get what we want? A new R with W? A new R with somebody new? Who knows.... But we will one day have that choice and will be able to take on the world and have anything we want in life!

Just my .02 but I got of on a ramble. Best of luck buddy!