Becoming the Anchor, Part 4

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Anything he gives you to fill out, put in your folder that you will take to your lawyer. Chances are your lawyer will have her own version of those papers anyway. Don't let him push you to do anything, but also don't let him know you are pushing back. Just take what he gives you. Stick it in a folder and hide it. When he asks you for them just say, "it is being handled". Once you retain your lawyer your response can be, "I will discuss it with my lawyer". He knows he is going to have to pay a portion of your legal fees. He is scared, and that will make him scary. Stay out of his way--and let your lawyer be your soldier.

I know exactly what you are talking about when you mention the look in his eyes. This is the look of a man who knows his power is weakening. It is desperation. Stay out of his way. Document everything--keep a notebook if you can with dated notes of things he says and did. Record every conversation if you can--I was advised to do this, but was careless about it. H was not so careless. And keep your lawyer's number on speed dial.