V is right - it doesn't matter if you backslide.We all do that and what matters is recognising it and moving forwards again.

Focusing on your own stuff is the thing to do - Your D, your own social activities, IC, Al anon, workbook etc...

I agree with V that drawing way back from him is the way to do. He's in a R with someone else right now....why offer him the great pleasure of your company and your loving behaviour? Offer that to yourself and others in your life who care for you.

You can do this 4my - and these past few weeks will be a useful learning experience for you....xx

Last edited by Sotto; 10/29/15 07:11 AM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus