Truthfully, I wasn't too quick. Vanilla has advised me on several occasions to record the awful things H says to me. I forgot quite a bit, but I was also in huge denial that my beloved H had changed so very much. Tonight I started to worry that the recordings could get him in serious trouble. Talk about feeling conflicted!!! Will I ever stop being concerned about him?
I want my old H back. Something huge is going to have to occur in his life before that can happen. I am resigned to the reality that it is what it is at the moment, but I'm so extremely sad about it.
I like your viewpoint, Julie. I wasn't seeing what was right in front of me until something so unbelievably awful happened that I was forced to face facts, if only to protect myself. This friend of his is one of the worst people I've ever encountered and H is more like him each day. I don't say "one of the worst people" lightly. I truly like most people I meet, and tend to make allowances/excuses for unpleasant persons. I can easily count the number of people I consider awful...and they have to be vile to get that rating. So, my H is well on his way to being contemptibly vile. Lovely.
