Thanks everyone for all you words of advice. It means so much.
The truth is... There is so much I love about my husband. He's a wonderful provider, out of the two of us - he is the better parent, he's any amazing problem solver and takes wonderful care of his family, he has a very peaceful personality and their have been many times where he has calmed my soul. He is generous and can be quite thoughtful. I guess I do forget that he is human and makes mistakes just like we all do. My problem is that I forget all those good things when we are upset with each other. That's something I need to change about me.
Anna, your letter was spot on! That's what I have been doing and how I feel! And quite honestly, I really don't like to see myself get so ugly. Do you think it's wrong of me to say that "I'm feeling sad and need you to comfort me. Could you do ... xyz?"
I agree TX, I'll never forget and the marriage is changed forever. But to be honest, there is still good here. Plus I've read that getting a divorce doesn't necessarily mean I will be happy after.
Even though we have been married for 20 + yrs, we communicate fine as long as we are getting along. The moment a problems is presented or there is conflict, it quickly goes down hill
Surprisingly, he told me today that he made an appointment with our MC, so we will see where this goes....
